Have you ever had a friend visit for a prolonged period of time and just found it a tad stressful and tiresome? Well, I have. I was happy a friend came to visit me from Montreal but for some reason, I just found that she was not a very easy house guest. She was just particularly demanding and at times it could be very frustrating. One thing she would do is decide at random times, no matter what we were doing, was she wanted tea. Obviously that’s not a problem in my house but I would be in the middle of doing something (i.e. feeding my super old/super sick dog who is diabetic and needs food at a specific time so he can get his insulin needle for diabetes) and she would start telling me to make her tea. I would say if she went and picked one, I would make it for her but she always wanted me to choose. Often times I would ask for her to at least narrow it down (i.e. caffeine or no caffeine and by tea type) and she would sort of groan or get a little frustrated with me and then when I did finally pick a tea, she would complain. It just made for a sour experience. I mean, when I have over 180 types of tea, it is a little difficult for me to just pick one out of a hat and have it be exactly what she wanted.
Well, this morning, she decided she wanted to try an eggnog latte (because my mom went grocery shopping last night and bought like 5 different eggnogs) and once again she told me to just pick one. So, I decided to brew this up for me and Nutmeg Cream up for her because I had those both as an eggnog latte a couple days back and thought both were amazing. Unfortunately, I didn’t realize how much the eggnog itself could impact the cup so though I chose delicious teas, she once again complained it was too watery. In fairness to her, my cup had the same issue which led me to believe that Neilson’s Eggnog is just not very good and so both our cups and the rest of the eggnog got dumped. That hurt a bit because both teas are discontinued so it was hard to dump them out (especially because she also insisted on taking my favourite 16 oz Nordic mug) but they were just way too watery to be drinkable.
Oh well, what’s done is done and no sense crying over spilled milk….or in this case, spilled eggnog.
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That sucks. I hope you rebound :)
That’s rough. I’m so sorry about your experience. I know exactly what you mean. That happened to me when a friend spent a weekend with me in Sweden. She’d go on and on about how she thought her Swedish city/university was better than mine, passive aggressively downgraded my studies while thinking she was special for studying her speciality, embarrassingly went on and on about herself to my floormates how she’s an amazing scholar, etc. Longest weekend of my life.
Your mom is hardcore for buying all of those different eggnogs. Better luck with the others!
I hope things will be better for you again. It’s too bad when you put so much into being a great hostess when a guest is being so difficult and unappreciative. Save your favourite (discontinued) teas for yourself next time. ;)
:( That kinda sucks. Being a bad guest is something I try so so hard not to do. Good luck testing all the eggnogs, though!
Its especially weird because I had the same friend come stay with my family for a week in Florida and she was lots of fun but then this trip was just super ridiculous. It’s over now though so back to my tea and my relaxing and my copious amounts of Eggnog :P
And Fjellrev, that sounds horrible. It really is frustrating when you try to be a good host and someone just sort of spoils it all by being a bad guest.
I’m sorry your visit with your friend wasn’t a success, and for the wasted tea but I love how supportive your Mom is of A) the eggnog latte obsession and B) the tea obsession in general. Now that my parents have realized this isn’t “a phase” they’re actively trying to learn stuff, but I still can’t EVER see them reaching the point of buying me five different kinds of eggnog :P
Hahaha my mom buys everything in excess. I mean she was the one who took me to DAVIDs and bought everything they had in 50g bags and then took me to Teavana and stocked me up there too. However, she does think I have gone a tad overboard, she doesn’t really stop me from buying stuff and her rule is if it is on the shopping list, she picks it up. Eggnog was on there so she picked it up.
I’m sorry you had such a rough visit. I love the idea of people staying with me, but I’m always afraid that I’ll end up having a house guest experience like yours. I like hosting, but I’m an introvert and I really need to be around people with excellent boundaries.
That sucks. I hope you rebound :)
That’s rough. I’m so sorry about your experience. I know exactly what you mean. That happened to me when a friend spent a weekend with me in Sweden. She’d go on and on about how she thought her Swedish city/university was better than mine, passive aggressively downgraded my studies while thinking she was special for studying her speciality, embarrassingly went on and on about herself to my floormates how she’s an amazing scholar, etc. Longest weekend of my life.
Your mom is hardcore for buying all of those different eggnogs. Better luck with the others!
I hope things will be better for you again. It’s too bad when you put so much into being a great hostess when a guest is being so difficult and unappreciative. Save your favourite (discontinued) teas for yourself next time. ;)
:( That kinda sucks. Being a bad guest is something I try so so hard not to do. Good luck testing all the eggnogs, though!
Its especially weird because I had the same friend come stay with my family for a week in Florida and she was lots of fun but then this trip was just super ridiculous. It’s over now though so back to my tea and my relaxing and my copious amounts of Eggnog :P
And Fjellrev, that sounds horrible. It really is frustrating when you try to be a good host and someone just sort of spoils it all by being a bad guest.
I’m sorry your visit with your friend wasn’t a success, and for the wasted tea but I love how supportive your Mom is of A) the eggnog latte obsession and B) the tea obsession in general. Now that my parents have realized this isn’t “a phase” they’re actively trying to learn stuff, but I still can’t EVER see them reaching the point of buying me five different kinds of eggnog :P
Hahaha my mom buys everything in excess. I mean she was the one who took me to DAVIDs and bought everything they had in 50g bags and then took me to Teavana and stocked me up there too. However, she does think I have gone a tad overboard, she doesn’t really stop me from buying stuff and her rule is if it is on the shopping list, she picks it up. Eggnog was on there so she picked it up.
I’m sorry you had such a rough visit. I love the idea of people staying with me, but I’m always afraid that I’ll end up having a house guest experience like yours. I like hosting, but I’m an introvert and I really need to be around people with excellent boundaries.